The Alzheimer’s Society published some very useful advice this week about how feelings can be difficult to deal with, especially for people who are looking after a loved one living with dementia. The Society identified a number of reasons people may feel ‘guilty’ and shared some helpful advice on ways to help manage these feelings.
Take a break
Once particular ‘guilty’ feeling that can be experienced is around the desire to have time apart. The importance of taking a break cannot be underestimated and should never be considered ‘guilty’ or ‘selfish’. Where someone is caring for a loved one, being able to enjoy spending time away from a caring role is vital. Everyone needs to recharge their batteries now and again. But in order to really benefit from having time away, a carer must feel confident and be reassured that their loved one’s care is in good hands.
Respite live-in care
So often, engaging a professional live-in carer to give respite or holiday cover for carers supporting a loved one is overlooked. At Otus Live-in Care, our registered carers have many years’ experience looking after clients who need help with catheters, are suffering a long term or terminal illness, have had a stroke or are living with Parkinson’s, dementia or Alzheimer’s disease. Otus registered carers are always prepared to provide holiday cover or respite care in between their regular clients. It takes a very special approach to be able to take over the role of a family carer – over and above professional skills, a respite carer must be flexible, compassionate and respect the wants and needs of the person they are caring for – as well as be able to deliver reassurance to the family carer.
To quote the Alzheimer’s Society advice: “Many carers find that giving themselves some time apart, and doing things that make them feel happy and positive, makes them more able to fulfil their role.”
Don’t think twice – ask for advice
If you are caring for a loved one, someone who relies on you on a daily basis, it is vital that you take care of yourself as well. We are always happy to offer support and advice whether you use our services or not, without obligation. The Otus team has experience of caring for their own loved ones and as a result, understands the pressures and challenges faced. We are all registered ‘Dementia Friends’ – an Alzheimer’s Society initiative about learning more about dementia and the ways everyone can help – if you would like to know more about our respite live-in carer services, please call us on 01403 710 119.